This Is the Age to Start Giving Your Kids Chores

Asking your kids to take out the trash and tidy up their rooms does not only lighten your to-do list, but it could actually make them better people, science says.

Research shows that assigning chores teaches children self reliance, responsibility, and respect, among other things. And what’s more, you can begin instilling these qualities in your Minis as early as 3 years old!

The study followed a group of kids during preschool and then again at ages 10, 15 and in their mid-20s and found that those who began chores earlier—at ages 3 and 4—were more well-rounded than those who started later or not at all. In fact, those who began chores at 3 and 4 were more likely to “have good relationships, achieve academic success and be self-sufficient,” Fatherly reports.

Doing chores could also turn out to be a better strategy for long-term positive social and academic outcomes than extracurriculars, according to Richard Rende, developmental psychologist and co-author of the book, Raising Can-Do Kids.

“Parents today want their kids spending time on things that can bring them success, but ironically, we’ve stopped doing one thing that’s actually been a proven predictor of success— and that’s household chores,” he says.

But there are a few things to keep in mind if you’re planning to start doling out tasks to your Minis (and actually want them finished):

Turn chores into a game. It may have worked for you when you were little, so try timing your kids to see how fast they can bring in the trash cans or put away their toys.

Think about what you say. If the kids hear you complaining about your to-dos, it can create a negative connotation. Instead, applaud them for being a helper.

Treat chores as a priority. Give chores enough time and treat them as a priority, just as you would piano lessons or basketball practice.

Ready for more about raising awesome humans? Read this article on how science says you raise creative kids or pick up Rende’s book, Raising Can-Do Kids.

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