We’ve always been fans of the PR powerhouse that is Kelly Cutrone. And although her If You Have to Cry, Go Outside motto may not work on the younger crowd, this rockstar mama gave Mini a few parenting pointers.
MINI: Tell us about the work environment at your PR company, People’s Revolution.
KELLY CUTRONE: It’s very entrepreneurial. Meaning, I live and work in the same building. Today I’m down here in a black T-shirt and some flip- flops. I just did cardio for an hour and then ran downstairs to work with the team. We work in a collective manor. We all sit at a table and then we have another showroom upstairs. It’s very open, very transparent, creative, very real. It’s a very dynamic space and environment..
MINI: What does your daughter Ava think of your job?
KC: She knows how to do my job. She was born in the back of People’s Revolution. She likes to call herself the longest working person [in the company]. I don’t think she wants to do PR per se, but I definitely think she wants to work in the fashion industry. She’s totally interested in it.
MINI: Does she love fashion as much as you do?
KC: I think that she probably loves it more than me because she’s just starting out— she loves to dress herself and she loves to go shopping. She’s obsessed right now with Brandy Melville. That’s her new thing and unfortunately, for me, she’s wearing those beanie knit hats. [I tell her] “Ava, it’s the summer. You kind of look like Mischa Barton circa 1992.” [She tells me] “Mommy, you just don’t get it.” I’ll have to walk around with a neon pink knit cap in 90 degree weather.
MINI: Let’s talk parenting. How would you describe your parenting style?
KC: I worship my daughter in the sense that I know she’s the only child I have. I feel like I’m watching her for God. It’s kind and it’s understanding and at the same time, it’s mentoring. It’s reflective of what society would do. I’m trying to mirror society’s views on basic manners and etiquette— I do insist on her using that. We have a very open relationship with no secrets. She has been pretty forthcoming about her growth and relationships with boys and stuff like that. She’s been pretty awesome I have to say.
MINI: What’s important to you in raising your daughter?
KC: The most important thing for me is that I stay focused on her and that I do the best for her in every moment of every day. Am I sometimes a lazy mom? Yeah! Do I let her watch YouTube for an extra half hour so that I can try to get in a single mom nap? Sure, I do! It’s not all yoga and intuition at the house.
MINI: What do you find the most difficult part of motherhood?
KC: The most difficult part of motherhood is womanhood— they are two different things. A friend of mine had asked me if I feel like more of a woman since I’ve become a mother. I feel like less of a woman and more of a mother. They are completely separate realities. The issue is really making time for yourself when you’re a mom.
MINI: What has your daughter taught you?
KC: I had already given birth to myself before I gave birth to Ava and that was kind of a deal that I made with myself. The only thing that I learned and didn’t already know is that labor and giving birth to a child, there’s not a word on the planet to describe how that happened or what it’s like.
MINI: Now that it’s summer, do you have favorite places to visit or things to do in the city with Ava?
KC: We’re not big city people in the summer. Like most New Yorkers, we go upstate. We have a house in the Hudson Valley and we re- ally love it there. We do everything— we swim, we boat, we cook, we garden, and we do cool things that commit us to the earth as a family.
MINI: Now we have to ask. Do you think it’s possible for women to have it all?
KC: No, I don’t. I do think that there are some women that get it all. But then I think that there are some women that get a lot and they accept the fact that they have a lot more than most. They are happy and stop complaining about it. ■
ON MY MIND
THE ADVICE I WOULD GIVE MY NEW PARENT SELF . . .
You better get ready.
MY STYLE IS BEST DESCRIBED AS . . .
Minimalist Goth. My major go-to piece is this Donna Karan black blazer.
MY PROUDEST PARENTING MOMENT WAS . . .
I was pretty amazed that I had a baby by myself. It’s a harsh thing to go into labor alone.
THE ITEM IN MY HANDBAG THAT SAYS I’M A MOM . . .
ONE PIECE OF STYLE ADVICE I WOULD GIVE MY CHILD . . .
Drop the beanie.